Stuck In Perfectionism?

Are you unconsciously holding yourself back? Answer “yes” or “no” to the following questions and find out:

Do you feel what you accomplish is never quite good enough?

Do you find that you are rarely satisfied with your completed projects and work?

Do you believe that if you do not do a perfect job that you are less of a person?

Do you fear failure because you will not be respected if you do fail?

Do you put things off because you’d rather not do them than fail trying?

If you answered yes to just one of these questions, you may be or have been stuck in what I call the Perfect Trap. Perfectionism is like a virus of the mind. It seduces us into an unnatural concept of what is possible.

Most of the human population suffers unknowingly with a certain degree of perfectionism. If we remain unwilling to do something about it, we might be sabotaging our capacity to excel.

Here are some quick ways to relieve the pressure of perfectionism.

  1. Come to a clear understanding that pushing to achieve perfection is like swimming with a rock. Eventually you’re going to drag down your performance and potentially drown a few dreams.
  2. When you decide to accomplish a goal or to complete a project, set realistic standards for yourself that lean heavily towards excellence rather than perfection.
  3. Experiment and learn to discriminate between good, great, excellent, and perfect. Learn to embrace good, great, and excellent. Learn to discard perfect.
  4. Celebrate and enjoy what you do accomplish. Take stock by asking yourself, “How much did I enjoy doing this?”

You may find this audio clip useful. It is a small portion of an interview I had with Dr. Martin M. Antony, Ph.D. on the topic. If you find this clip insightful, feel free to download the entire audio program dedicated to keeping you unstuck from perfectionism. (HeadTrip Audio Disc 4 – How to Create Customer Evangelists)

Between Sessions With Victoria

In our last session, Victoria came up with two strong actions to take which we are using as her main accountability items for this week.

One was to send out an e-mail message to her database in order to alert these folks about the new direction of her new career.

Second Victoria wanted to confirm and act on an invitation she had been given earlier to offer some free sessions to her key audience.

While coaching sessions are imperative to moving a client closer to meeting their goals, they are not the only means by which coaching occurs.

Here you’ll find e-coaching occuring as Victoria and I stayined in touch through e-mail.

Tuesday, April 12th, 4:33 p.m.: I got in touch with both people at Americans for the Arts that I was trying to reach about marketing opps. The coaching at the conference is a go. I will also get pre-conference “publicity” in their conference marketing materials. Second, was talking to them about online advertising. This is something they are just starting to make available – it would include options to have small ads on the right side of their blog, or in their monthly and/or weekly publications. This is cool because they reach thousands of people a week these venues. Figuring out how best to use the opportunity is my next need.




Tuesday, April 12th, 5:15 p.m.: Excellent! This is a great report! How about if we down shift the comment: “Figuring out how to BEST use the opportunity” to a more realistic gear?


What if you used the words: “figuring out BEST how to begin to use the opportunity in an excellent, not perfect fashion?”


What are your thoughts on this Victoria?






Wednesay, April 13th, 1:36 p.m.: We could evven say “figuring out how to use this opportunity in an excellent not perfect fashion.”

I can see that the language we use is important isn’t it?






Wednesay, April 13th, 1:58 p.m.: Yes, it is very important. What we want here is to use your energy in the most effective and efficient manner. Your new language seems more organic, inviting, and do-able.”


Nice work here Victoria.



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