Stuck In Perfectionism?

Are you unconsciously holding yourself back? Answer “yes” or “no” to the following questions and find out:

Do you feel what you accomplish is never quite good enough?

Do you find that you are rarely satisfied with your completed projects and work?

Do you believe that if you do not do a perfect job that you are less of a person?

Do you fear failure because you will not be respected if you do fail?

Do you put things off because you’d rather not do them than fail trying?

If you answered yes to just one of these questions, you may be or have been stuck in what I call the Perfect Trap. Perfectionism is like a virus of the mind. It seduces us into an unnatural concept of what is possible.

Most of the human population suffers unknowingly with a certain degree of perfectionism. If we remain unwilling to do something about it, we might be sabotaging our capacity to excel.

Here are some quick ways to relieve the pressure of perfectionism.

  1. Come to a clear understanding that pushing to achieve perfection is like swimming with a rock. Eventually you’re going to drag down your performance and potentially drown a few dreams.
  2. When you decide to accomplish a goal or to complete a project, set realistic standards for yourself that lean heavily towards excellence rather than perfection.
  3. Experiment and learn to discriminate between good, great, excellent, and perfect. Learn to embrace good, great, and excellent. Learn to discard perfect.
  4. Celebrate and enjoy what you do accomplish. Take stock by asking yourself, “How much did I enjoy doing this?”

You may find this audio clip useful. It is a small portion of an interview I had with Dr. Martin M. Antony, Ph.D. on the topic. If you find this clip insightful, feel free to download the entire audio program dedicated to keeping you unstuck from perfectionism. (HeadTrip Audio Disc 4 – How to Create Customer Evangelists)

Creating Customer Evangelists

The main marketing strategy used in my coaching practice is WOM (word of mouth marketing). I learned about this concept from Ben and Jackie when their first book Creating Customer Evangelists came out. I trust them and their blog to keep me informed on the latest information about WOM marketing.

If you are creating yourself into a unique “brand” within a larger organization, if you own a small business or if you are thinking about starting one you may also be interested in our HeadTrip Audio program downloadable tracks on the subject of creating your own Customer Evangelists (Disc 4).

Here is a sample from one of the tracks where Ben and Jackie and I were discussing this very topic:

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Social media marketing is still all the rage, but an important new book out from Ed Keller and Bray Fay reminds marketers where and how customers are actually talking about brands,services and companies. From their book, “The Face-to-Face Book: Why Real Relationships Rule in a Digital Marketplace,” here’s 5 important things you need to know before putting that integrated marketing plan together:

  1. 90% of all conversations about brands happens offline. Ed and Brad’s company Keller Fay has been tracking Americans’ conversations, a new sample of 700 people every week since 2006, and have found that the majority of brand conversations happen offline: face-to-face (76%) and on the phone (14%). Online conversations only make up 8% of total conversations.
  2. Online conversations and offline conversations are not the same.Research shows that the people who talk about brands offline are different than the people who talk about brands online, especially in age. Also the types of brands dictate where most conversations happen: Brands that get the most online WOM skew toward those that offer uniqueness, and thus encourage people to express opinions as a way of signaling their own uniqueness and social status. Offline sharing had more to do with expressing emotions like satisfaction and excitement.
  3. It doesn’t take high-tech, innovative products to get people talking. Keller Fay’s TalkTrack research shows that products that consumers use in their everyday lives are the brands that get the most talk-value. Apple might have the coolest products but Coke products are the most ubiquitous.
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  4. Traditional marketing methods still matter.The TalkTrack study finds that about 25% of all consumer conversations about brands involve one consumer telling another about an advertisement that he or she has seen. Another 30% of of conversations mention retail displays, coupons, direct mail and public relations. Pretty old school, huh?
  5. Most word of mouth is positive. Keller Group’s research shows that overall, only 8% of brand conversations are truly negative, and 66% of brand conversations are truly positive. Another 11% is neutral, and 15% is a mix of positive and negative. Also, positive WOM is more credible than negative WOM. When people hear something positive about a brand, 66% of them assign a high credibility rating to it, rating it 9 or 10 on a scale of 0-10. Only 47% of people give the same credibility rating to negative opinions about brands.




Advertising and marketing have never been easier, cheaper, more fun and more effective than they are now.

Because of this, I have become a disciple and evangelist for the tenants of WOMM (Word Of Mouth Marketing).

I grow my businesses by investing time and a few (very few) dollars into developing WOMM strategies and projects.

The more creative your field of work, the better WOMM will work for you.

If you want to enlist or beef up your marketing plans here are three easy ways to do so immediately:

1st – Purchase, study and apply the concepts found in the book titled Creating Customer Evangelists by Ben McConnell and Jackie Hubba.


2nd – Download the cliff-note version of the book by Clicking Here scroll down to Head-trip DISK 4 – How to Create Customer Evangelists

Here you’ll find my interview with authors Ben and Jackie (see Creating Customer Evangelists above) during which we discuss the practical application of each of the six Word of Mouth tenants.


3rd – Enjoy this info graphic that details the Word of Mouth Marketing Association’s (WOMMA) latest statistics about how WOMM  could be out there working for you too.